"Share!" is right there with "No!" as the most often repeated word in toddler's home! We're no exception, given that at any point in time, with twin toddlers, the rules of possession are "what my brother has, I want". The place value of a toy seems to significantly go up when it is in the hand of a sibling.
We have two pillow racers at home, a blue plan that E claimed ownership for, and a red fire truck that his brother V immediately went for. At first, I was nervous about opening it, and wanted to swap one of them out to have two identical ones, thereby guaranteeing some peace in the house. Alas, that was not to be, as the boys just ripped them apart, and started playing with them without giving me a chance at swapping them. Oh well, it will be a wonderful opportunity for teaching them sharing, I thought. I often refrain from forcing my kids to share, I don't want them to lose that joy of playing with their current favorite toy just because brother wants it, but at times, encourage them to expand their social skills by teaching them to ask politely, using please and thank you, etc. All of it I thought, was an exercise in vain, as most often, the toy would go to the kid who threw the louder tantrum!
Yesterday morning, I was in for a pleasant surprise. V, who had been eying E's blue plane for a while, and had tried using his loud voice and many tantrums to get it, totally surprised me with this behavior!
I was making chai in the morning, and overheard V point his red truck to E, saying " E - yed color" multiple times. He followed it with a "pease E". This must have melted E's heart as well, he hopped on the fire truck and gave V his blue plane, and V said a loud "thans" to his brother! The whole scene brought a tear in my eye ( yes, I am a mom and my kids make me cry, but this was different!). The fact that V actually sold the "yed car" to his bro, used his "peease" and then thanked him! Oh how I love my babies!
We have two pillow racers at home, a blue plan that E claimed ownership for, and a red fire truck that his brother V immediately went for. At first, I was nervous about opening it, and wanted to swap one of them out to have two identical ones, thereby guaranteeing some peace in the house. Alas, that was not to be, as the boys just ripped them apart, and started playing with them without giving me a chance at swapping them. Oh well, it will be a wonderful opportunity for teaching them sharing, I thought. I often refrain from forcing my kids to share, I don't want them to lose that joy of playing with their current favorite toy just because brother wants it, but at times, encourage them to expand their social skills by teaching them to ask politely, using please and thank you, etc. All of it I thought, was an exercise in vain, as most often, the toy would go to the kid who threw the louder tantrum!
Yesterday morning, I was in for a pleasant surprise. V, who had been eying E's blue plane for a while, and had tried using his loud voice and many tantrums to get it, totally surprised me with this behavior!
I was making chai in the morning, and overheard V point his red truck to E, saying " E - yed color" multiple times. He followed it with a "pease E". This must have melted E's heart as well, he hopped on the fire truck and gave V his blue plane, and V said a loud "thans" to his brother! The whole scene brought a tear in my eye ( yes, I am a mom and my kids make me cry, but this was different!). The fact that V actually sold the "yed car" to his bro, used his "peease" and then thanked him! Oh how I love my babies!
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